Yes, Yes It’s Valentine’s Day Again.

Valentine’s Day is now a multi billion pound/dollar occasion but has it always been here or is it just a load of clever marketing?

A few years ago I remember suddenly being confronted with a poster asking me: ‘What will you get Them this Year?’ This over a colourful banner declaring that some date or other was now ‘Grandparent’s Day’ or as displayed in another card sellers window: ‘World Grandparent’s Day’ although I am not sure how the word ‘World’ altered the implied sentiment. I remember thinking at the time ‘Where the hell did that come from?’ Then I had terrifying visions of my one surviving Grandmother, or rather Nana, who is still around and still possess the power to whither anyone within hearing range, with a single word demanding to know what I was doing sending her such a card, and then more than likely setting fire to the thing, before lighting yet another cigarette with it.

Bee My Valentine.jpgPhoto by Karen Horton

Of course it didn’t take too long for me to get to the bottom of what I suspected was going on. Yes you guessed it – The UK’s Carlton Cards and a few smaller brands had joined forces with that Global behemoth of them all: America’s Hallmark Cards and decided, Cartel style, to reveal to us a whole new stable of “Celebration Days” that from what I can see, they created almost singlehandedly. This move against an unsuspecting public of people like me, who not only forget their own birthdays, but worse, often remember too late, when an obligatory card Must be dispatched. The scary thing is that this blatant ploy, to squeeze more money out of more conscientious card and gift senders than I could ever be, almost worked. If only they had squeezed out Grandparent’s Day alone, which may have been a slow burner, it may have ultimately carved out a place in our annual list of anxiety making celebrations. Not unlike Halloween, which as a kid we only celebrated with a carved lantern, which stunk out our houses with scorched turnip for a few days, before being quickly forgotten, but now has become a multimillion pound annual business of plastic tat, costumes, trick or treat, and oh yes, celebration cards.

Anyway, as I was saying, the Card Cartel just got plain greedy because it wasn’t too long before their shop windows had some kind of celebration poster up almost every week. Here’s a handful dates that they have been trying to sell to us:

January 11th World Ex’s Day – yes you guessed it where you are suppose to touch base with your Ex with a card or a phone call… yes your Ex Girlfriend/s, Boyfriend/s. Nooooooo don’t do it!
April 10th May 5th Brother’s day – for some reason there are now 2 days so if you forget the first you can…
July 26th Uncle & Aunt’s Day
August 11th Son & Daughter’s Day
October 2nd World Sister’s Day
October 3rd Grandparent’s Day
The-Sunday-after-Mothers-Day Step Mother’s Day
April 1st* 2nd Cousin Twice Removed Day
*Sorry I couldn’t resist making that last one up, maybe an April Fool’s Joke? Although, I could also argue that my dates share just as much legitimacy, as those thrust onto our high streets at the behest of someone’s marketing department.

I digress…
Returning to Valentine’s Day – It all began as a liturgical celebration one or more early Christian saints named Valentinus. Several martyrdom stories were invented for the various Valentines that belonged to February 14. A popular hagiographical account of Saint Valentine of Rome states that he was imprisoned for performing weddings for soldiers who were forbidden to marry and for ministering to Christians, who were persecuted under the Roman Empire.

The day was first associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished. In 18th-century England, it evolved into an occasion in which lovers expressed their love for each other by presenting flowers, offering confectionery, and eventually sending greeting cards. Of course peer/ partner pressure has pushed the envelope on what is expected until now, for some, a simple card is not enough and many people now expect at least a weekend city break or an upgrade of last year’s Cartier watch. Whereas in the world I once inhabited a decent night out, maybe a candlelit dinner was usually the minimum expected to keep that special person smiling. Although in my own experience, the annual wrestle to find a table, even at just a half decent pizza restaurant needs a degree of planning in order to avoid having to accept a vacant table at 10.30 at night.

Of course Valentine’s Day is not welcomed everywhere, and not just by the most pathologically none romantic amongst us.

Love is a human right.jpgPhoto by Lewisham Dreamer

Iran Most Islamic teachers see the celebrations as opposed to Islamic culture. So the printing and distribution of any goods promoting the holiday, including cards, gifts and teddy bears could land you behind bars.
Malaysia Islamic officials in Malaysia warned Muslims against celebrating Valentine’s Day, linking it with vice activities. Even the Deputy Prime Minister said the celebration of romantic love was “not suitable” for Muslims
Pakistan While most Islamic political parties have called for the banning of Valentine’s Day celebration. Despite this, the celebration has become popular among urban youth and the florists expect to sell a great amount of flowers, especially red roses.
Saudi Arabia Religious police have banned the sale of all Valentine’s Day items, because the day is considered a Christian holiday. In 2012 the religious police arrested more than 140 Muslims for celebrating the holiday, some who were reportedly struck with canes, and they also confiscated all red roses from flower shops.
Turkey Although many people say Turkey is losing much of its Secular identity, and while some in the ruling Islamist leaning AKP, might welcome similar measures to the more conservative minded states listed above, Turkey has actually avoided much of the Christian connotations associated with St Valentine by simply renaming the day in recent decades as Sevgi Gunu, which roughly translates to Love Day.

After reading this you may think I posses a slight degree of cynicism if not outright dislike for the 14th of February, but dear reader you would be very, very wrong to think so. Although I don’t claim to be this great romantic I have still enjoyed some incredibly close and romantic Valentine’s days over the years. However, this date only became important to me for one massive reason a few years ago, on a day that was quite possibly the best day of my life. It was the day I witnessed the birth of someone very, very special.

Photo by Adrian Pratt

Baked it myself!


5 thoughts on “Yes, Yes It’s Valentine’s Day Again.

  1. Happy Valentine’s Day, Tony!
    I’m impressed and touched by your last sentences. The cards and dinners are very nice, but your words express real, genuine and unconditional love which is what this day should be about.
    I’m celebrating Valentine with mutual friends of ours and you will be missed.
    Wishing you and Kitten a cosy evening!

  2. Ahh what a nice blog. Your twist was very sweet Anthony. Call me Sherlock Holmes but Dave must be your son.

  3. Happy Valentines to everyone. I must admit to my shame I actually sent a couple of Grandparents Day cards in the 90’s or was it 00’s? All it did was bemuse my Opa although Granny thanked me.

    What happened to those TV awards you threatened last year Antony?

  4. Greetings from Vietnam!!! 3 months travelling DEVINE!

    At dinner the waiter actually gave ma a rose and said happy ‘Valentine lady’ So here it is not so banned I guess.

    Happy Birthday to you Dave too X I take it he reads your stuff?

  5. Happy V day everyone

    Normally I’m not so excited about today but a blind date tonight could change everything. Or not.

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